The Timing of Your Life
They say timing is everything and they’re not wrong. The timing of our lives and projects have as much to do with success as the ideas behind them. Too early or too late and we miss our opportunities to make an impact.
So how do you know what the timing should be? How do you know if you’re too late to market, or too early in your beta stage? How do you know when to launch? When to partner? When to announce? When to take a risk? When to play it safe? What is the standard clock by which we should make our work?
Before we get to the answer, a story from Courtney: Years ago I was working in sales. I was peddling make up and growing a sales team through an MLM company. (I wrote all about it in my book if you want the full story.) As my director and I were helping a consultant on my team with a strategy, the consultant said, “I’m just going to let God handle this. If it’s meant to be, he’ll bring it into my life.” Before I said anything, my director answered her, “At some point, you’re going to have to do something. You can’t just sit back and wait for it to happen.” I said nothing, but I thought they both were right.
Whether you believe in God in the religious sense or not, chances are you believe in intuition. Gut decisions. Hunches. You can attribute those feelings to an ultimate creator or not, it doesn’t really matter, but what does matter is that you know what we mean when we say your inner voice. That little whisper that speaks up every now and then, leading you in new and undiscovered directions. Guiding you to and fro.
This inner voice is your deepest knowing and your wisest self. She knows what to do and when to do it. So the consultant was right—the inner voice will tell you what you need to know exactly when you need to know it and no sooner.
But, the director was right, too. If you’re not in motion, if you’re not putting yourself in the situations, places and opportunities where your inner voice could speak to you, then intuition might not have anything to say. There has to be a co-creation, a conversation between your inner and outer world, to be truly aligned.
So back to this question of timing. How do we know if we’re too early or too late or what? And how can we trust the timing of our lives without going crazy and seeking to control every bit of our creativity, art, family, business or life?
Here’s how to intuit the right timing for whatever you’re wanting to create in your life:
1. Get yourself in motion that gives you new information.
This doesn’t mean do all the things. This means, get to a place where you can experiment, find out more, dig a little deeper. Act on ideas that will bring you information. Be a student. Learn. Sitting around by yourself, thinking about what could possibly be the answer will only twist you into circles and keep you stuck in one rote way of thinking. Get out and into motion without needing to know what to do next. You don’t have to make a fifteen step plan to get in motion. Chances are you won’t really know what to do until you get there. So release the need to know how it’ll help you, and just get moving.
2. Stop thinking about it.
You can stop thinking about it by doing an activity like cooking, cleaning, walking or meditating, but whatever you do, don’t try to mentally figure out and problem-solve just yet. Listen for your intuition. When you put your mind somewhere else for awhile, letting go of the timing conundrum in your head, you’re far more likely to find the answer in some random moment. You might be chopping onions, totally absorbed in what you’re doing, and the answer will have space to drop into your mind. Letting go of the “figuring out of things” is key for hearing your intuition.
3. Accept what you get.
Many times, we know what our inner voice is telling us to do, but we don’t like the answer. Our wisest self may be saying, “Wait.” And that’s it. No further instructions. No, “Wait, and I’ll give you the answer in three days.” No, “Wait, because I’m cooking up something really good for you.” No extra information, just “Wait.” This is one of the hardest things for us to hear because it feels like we’re doing nothing. So we overcompensate and make all kinds of choices when we know the right choice, the choice that’s going to serve our project or idea, is to be still for a moment. If you think your intuition isn’t talking to you, consider that you might just not like what it’s saying.
The consultant and the director were both right. Get yourself into thoughtful motion and then release the need to know what comes next. The right timing will express itself to you, but you have to be willing to co-create with it. You have to be poised and ready to take action when the moment comes.
When we say, “Own your creativity. Make shit happen,” we’re saying you have a deep power within you to make beautiful, amazing things. Things that only you can make. And we’re saying, don’t sit by and excuse yourself from the doing. Co-create with the universe to reveal the right timing, and then have the courage to act on it. Put yourself in constant conversation with your inner voice and the opportunities multiply.